Sub macho men

Sam Smith – I have come to regard men who attack gays, women who have abortions, or immigrants as pseudo or sub macho guys because they are defining themselves not by their own virtues but by the fact that they dislike someone else. This is a weak self description but one we have come to accept because a good deal of our politics and discussions also involve attacks rather than positive ideas.

I was raised to believe that real manhood was based on such things as skills, strength, creativity, looks, conviviality and the ability to associate with, or make love to, others. It was not based on proclaiming the alleged faults of others.

It has lately occurred to me that if we started describing Donald Trump, for example, as a sub or pseudo macho man we might get a different reaction from him on some these matters. It is certainly worth a try.